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Regular meeting script:
Welcome
to the Coming
Home Phone Line, an
Intergroup of Survivors of Incest Anonymous. My name is ____________,
and I am a survivor.
All
the meeting readings, including this script, are on our website,
SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.
This meeting is for adults of any gender identity who were abused as children. This is a place to work on healing the wounds of incest.
SIA
is an anonymous fellowship. Everything that is said here in the
telephone meeting, and member to member, must be held in confidence.
When we feel safe, we can honestly share what’s in our hearts,
which is how we truly help each other in SIA.
In
order to get to know each other, let’s all introduce ourselves
by our first names, and if you want, where you’re calling from.
I'll start. My name is ___________.
Who
else would like to introduce themselves? To unmute, press *1.
(Welcome
each person.)
Welcome
everyone.
If
you are a newcomer to SIA or new to our phone line, we welcome you.
At the close of the formal meeting we open the line for any questions
you may have. If you cannot stay until the end of the meeting and you
would like more information, please let us know. (Direct
to SIA website / give or get phone number)
Please
keep your phone muted except when reading or sharing. To mute and
unmute, press *1, or you can use the mute button on your phone. Also,
due to phoneline sound issues, only the moderator thanks the reader
or speaker.
Would
someone please read The
Twelve Steps of SIA?
We
read one Tradition per meeting, and all the Traditions at Group
Conscience and Business Meetings. The Tradition that I’d like
to share with the group today is Tradition # ______. (Read
a Tradition of your choice.)
By
group conscience of the CHP
intergroup
it has been decided that other than the 12
Steps and
one
Tradition,
the only other reading that must occur is the 12
Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings.
However, if anyone would like to have The
Definition of Incest, The Legacy of Incest or
The Solution
read, we can do so.
Would
anyone like to have one of the other three readings done before going
to the 12
Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings?
(If
someone requests a doc ask that person to read it or for another
volunteer to do so).
(Would
someone volunteer to read The
Definition of Incest?)
(Would
someone volunteer to read The
Legacy of Incest?)
(Would
someone volunteer to read The
Solution?)
Would
someone please volunteer to read the Guidelines
for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings?
(Introduce the focus of the meeting [i.e. Inner Kids, Open Share, Step Study,
workshop, etc...])
For
an Open Share meeting, the moderator may take up to 3 topics. (Choose
a topic from the Topics List on the website, or ask for topics)
Does
anyone have a topic they would like discussed tonight?
(After
reading literature or requesting Topics, please say)
A
few final notes before sharing:
We
allow the moderator to thank the last speaker before we request to
share. If more than one person asks to share at the same time, the
moderator will decide who shares first and will place only one person
into the waiting queue.
Finally
during meetings, shares must be confined or directly tied-in to
issues related to recovery from childhood sexual abuse.
Please
limit your share to _________ minutes as determined by the meeting’s
group conscience.
(Open share meetings tend to be 5 minutes and step and tradition
study meetings 3 minutes).
Would
someone volunteer to be our Spiritual
Timekeeper?
(When
someone volunteers, thank them.)
At
four minutes, the Timekeeper will say “One Minute.” At
the end of five minutes, they will say, “Time.” Please
acknowledge when you hear the Timekeeper.
(If
the shares are 3-minute shares, the Timekeeper will say “One
Minute” at the 2-minute mark.)
(Otherwise)
Okay,
we will self-time for ____ minutes.
(For
an Open Share Meeting please say)
The
topics are __________. However,
we
are not required to share on the suggested
topics.
OR
(If
the meeting is a Special Topic Meeting, such as a Speaker Meeting,
Step Study, or Traditions Study, read the appropriate Additional
Script Reading at the end of this script.)
Who
would like to begin the sharing?
(Call
for the Next-to-the-last
Share about
15 minutes before the meeting ends.)
The
Next-to-the-last
Share,
by group conscience, is for anyone who has provided service at the
meeting, or checked in at the beginning of the meeting who did not
have a chance to share. Is there anyone who did service or who has
been at the entire meeting who would like to take the
Next-to-the-last
Share?
(If
no one wishes to share, open it up again for anyone.)
The
Last Share of the Day
is the Newcomer
Share.
A Newcomer is someone who has shared 6 or fewer times on the line. Is
there a Newcomer who would like to share at this point or simply come
in and introduce themselves?
(If
no Newcomer wishes to share, sharing is opened up again for anyone.)
(If
more than five minutes remain after the Newcomer share, call for
another share.)
The
7th Tradition: SIA
is fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. Please
consider sending a dollar contribution for each meeting you attend on
the phone line to the World Service Office. To make a contribution
through PayPal, please go to the World Service Office web site at
SIAWSO.org.
or you may choose to use the mail.
Will
someone please read the Twelve
Promises?
I’d
like to thank all who read, all who shared, our timekeeper and all
who held space by listening.
(Moderator
may choose to thank those who read by first name)
A
gentle reminder: The opinions expressed here were strictly those of
the person who gave them. Take what you liked and leave the
rest.
Remember,
what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.
Whatever
your problems, there are those among us that have them too. Talk
with one another, reason things out, but let there be no gossip or
criticism. Instead, let the love and peace of the program grow
in you one day at a time.
For
all those who would like to, please join me in saying the Serenity
Prayer.
Now
it’s time for Announcements:
To
begin with, welcome to the Newcomers. At the end of these
announcements we will take any questions you have about SIA meetings,
phone
line etiquette, SIA Safety Guidelines, and participation.
·
On the Coming Home Phone Line, there are daily meetings or workshops,
morning, afternoon and evening. For information about meeting topics,
times, and which meetings have moderators,
please
go to the website, SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.
·
If the regular moderator is not present, any member of the line who has been participating for at least 3 months, and has no record of safety violations may step up to moderate the meeting, using the open-share script that's on our website.
·
If you’d like to receive a reminder about the meetings you
attend on the phoneline, please give your contact information to the
moderator and he or she will send a
reminder
about that meeting. Also, if you’d like to be an active member
of the Coming Home Phoneline notification list for special workshops,
meeting marathons and SIA World Service events, please ask your
meeting moderator to pass your information along to the intergroup
volunteer who manages that list and sends out announcements. (Liz P)
·
Meeting moderators serve 3-month lengths of service. If you’d
like to serve as moderator, co-moderator or back-up moderator, please
let any meeting moderator know of your willingness to be of service
in this way. After 3 months of service as a moderator or
co-moderator, you are eligible to represent your meeting at the
Intergroup level. All members are welcome at Intergroup
meetings.
Are
there any other announcements or requests for phone numbers or would
anyone like to give out a phone number?
Are
there
any
newcomers with
questions
about SIA CHP,
anonymity, or SIA
in
general?
If
you would like someone to contact you with more information please
let us know.
Because
SIA is a peer led support group, there are no professionals to
mediate safety issues that arise outside of structured meetings and
workshops on this line. As a result, by unanimous vote of the Coming
Home Phoneline Intergroup, it was decided to end all fellowship
before and after phoneline meetings and workshops. We realize that
sometimes meetings end before all who want to share have a chance to
do so. Therefore, attendees of any meeting may continue to share if
someone agrees to step up and serve as moderator. After the meeting’s
announcements have been made, and questions answered, anyone may
volunteer to step in and serve as moderator until everyone who wants
to share has done so. At that point, the extended meeting will close
with the Serenity Prayer. Please remember, from this point forward,
the phoneline is for meetings and workshops only. If you would like
to have a back and forth conversation with a fellow survivor, you may
exchange contact information and continue sharing offline.
Additional Script Readings for Special-topic Meetings
Speaker Meeting
Is there a volunteer to share their experience, strength and hope for fifteen minutes?
(OR)
(If a speaker has already been chosen) Now,
(member name) __________ will share their experience, strength and hope for fifteen minutes.
(AFTER THE SPEAKER SHARE)
(Ask) Would the Speaker like to choose a topic for this meeting?
The topic is _____.
Unlike at other Coming Home Phone Line meetings, it is okay for members who are about to share to thank the Speaker by name for their share. We may share our experience, strength and hope on the same topic, but we don't comment directly on what the Speaker has said.
Who would like to begin the sharing?
(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)
(After announcements for the Sunday morning Speaker Meeting are made, instead of reading the Fellowship Reading, say)
We will now have our
Creative Share Fair and Inner Kid Play Time. People may share their creative work, sing, play music & let their inner kids come out to play.
Please limit your Creative Share to five minutes, self-timed.
Members may share more than once during Creative Share Fair if no one else volunteers to share.
Members can also share regular shares if they don't want to share a Creative Share.
Step Study Meeting
We read from the
SIA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pamphlet. Each Step is studied from beginning to end. A volunteer reads one paragraph or 2 of the questions at the end of the Step, then shares for 3 or 5 minutes, depending on the meeting. After each reading, the moderator takes two shares. If no one volunteers to read, the moderator reads.
If no one wishes to share on that paragraph or questions, the next paragraph or questions are read.
We may share on a paragraph or questions that were already read, even if they were not the last ones read. We try to share about our understanding of the Step, how we apply it to our recovery, how we want to apply it or challenges we have applying it.
It's okay to share more than once during this meeting.
If a Step is not completed in the course of a meeting, the next Step Study meeting will pick up where the last meeting ended.
In the twice-a-week morning Step meetings, only one Step is studied per week. At the second meeting of the week, the part that was read at the first meeting is reread without comment. When the new part is read, normal shares resume.
Once the Step and its questions are done being read, open sharing begins.
When all 12 Steps have been worked through, the meeting will return to Step One.
The Step we are reading today is ____________. Who would like to volunteer to begin the reading?
(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)
Traditions Study Meeting
We read from the
SIA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pamphlet. Each Tradition is studied from beginning to end. A volunteer reads one paragraph or 2 of the questions at the end of the Tradition, then shares for 3. After each reading, the moderator takes two shares. If no one volunteers to read, the moderator reads.
If no one wishes to share on the paragraph or questions, the next paragraph or questions are read.
We may share on a paragraph or questions that were already read, even they were not the last ones read. We try to share about our understanding of the Tradition, how we apply it to our recovery, how we want to apply it or challenges we have applying it.
It's okay to share more than once during this meeting.
Once the Tradition and its questions are done being read, open sharing begins.
When all 12 Traditions have been worked through, the meeting will return to Tradition One.
The Tradition we are reading today is ____________.
Who would like to volunteer to begin the reading?
(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)"